Love and Pain


The Super Conjunction is about to be broadsided by the Goddess of Love and her consort.
As July opens, Venus will square the conjunction from Taurus to Aquarius. On the 6th, Mars will do the same, and on the 10th Jupiter and Neptune reach exactitude again. This puts our focus on relationships; with all the heat (Mars), attraction (Venus), pain (Chiron) and dreams of escape (Neptune) that relationships entail.

It was the Summer Solstice transits that paved the way for all this. Venus and Mars were together in the sky – in Taurus, no less – while the New Moon and Vesta were opposite Pluto: a situation loaded with the charge of sexual taboo. Now Venus and Mars are, one after another, going to pay a call on the triumvirate of grandiosity, illusions and wounds.

As a cautionary tale, this pattern expressed itself in the bizarre Lost-Weekend+ of Governor Mark Sanford. Here’s a guy whose utterly human drives burst out from behind his twee Southern-family-man exterior, making mincemeat out of the tightly wound persona that packaged him. Poor fellow. He heard that siren call and instead of stuffing his ears with wax, as Ulysses did, he jumped right in. He chose the Neptune option.

There’s going to be a tremendous energetic tension over the next couple of weeks between the personal and the transpersonal. The former will be represented by Venus and Mars, the duo of giving-to and taking-from others; the latter by those mysterious cravings symbolized by the Aquarius cluster. If we want to avoid pulling a Sanford, we might give a thought to what the highest way of playing out these transits might be.

How to honor our sensate selves in healthy, conscious ways; at the same time that we surrender to the unconscious drives that are guiding us to deep healing? How might we acknowledge both urges without giving up the manageability of our lives?

The best approach is to already know where we’re wounded (Chiron). The tragedy of these GOP sex scandals seems to be that these men have not confronted their hurt and need; instead they seem to have closeted them. This gives the deep psyche no alternative but to do something rash, such as compelling us to Argentina to play hooky and risk all for nookie. This syndrome is an expression of shadow Venus, Mars, Pluto, Vesta and the Moon (see my article in DayKeeper Journal) which clashed in the sky under which Sanford flew the coop.

The lesson behind all the Super Conjunction’s various expressions this year, behind all of the clashing juxtapositions of the known and unknown parts of ourselves, behind all the confusions and embarrassments that our human conflicts engender, is that of our shared condition. The dramas that will occur in July and ongoing, in bedrooms and boardrooms all over the world, are there to teach us about humanness (Aquarius). There is a universality to every human foible. Anticipating this will allow us to soften and deepen while we negotiate the sweet chaos of intimacy.

It takes humility (Neptune) to admit that we don’t always know what to do with our desires (Mars & Venus); and humility is exactly what we’re supposed to be learning. If we go into these next few weeks open-heartedly, our relationships will show us how to absorb, with grace and self-forgiveness, the overriding teaching of 2009: that we are all wounded (Chiron), we are all growing (Jupiter), and we are all children of the Universe (Neptune).

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Jessica Murray
Jessica Murray

Mpk,A lot of psychological and philosophical thinkers and writers, as well as sex therapists, have gotten hip to the Vesta principle in recent years; mostly through the work of Riane Eisler and Marija Gimbutas. And though it isn't necessarily framed in astrological terms, the basic idea that the prehistorical world held sex to be sacred is often referred to by people who consider themselves "sex-positive.". There are even a few sacred harlots out there, introducing pilgrims to the Mysteries and charging for their services. Thanks for writing,JM

m.p.k
m.p.k

I should clarify that I'm not looking for a personal reference ;-)

m.p.k
m.p.k

Just found the article in DayKeeper Journal... this is great stuff. How does the culture heal and transform this suppressed Vesta stuff to something healthy and honest and what does that transformation look like? Any thoughts on that? Is anyone doing this kind of work that you respect?

Jessica Murray
Jessica Murray

MPK,It's true, and I think that seeming irreconcilability is the point. The humanistic approach to astrology holds that in dealing with such quandaries (e.g. personal desire vs. responsibility), we find out things about ourselves that we wouldn't if there were no struggle. It's not as if there's an absolute answer out there, that we're supposed to already know. It's that in struggling self-honestly with an apparent contradiction (how to honor the desires in a way that's responsible to others), we glimpse the possibility of paradox -- a cosmic reality hard for the human mind to grasp.Jessica

m.p.k.
m.p.k.

How to honor our sensate selves in healthy, conscious ways; at the same time that we surrender to the unconscious drives that are guiding us to deep healing? How might we acknowledge both urges without giving up the manageability of our lives?The best approach is to already know where we’re wounded (Chiron)... It takes humility (Neptune) to admit that we don't always know what to do with our desires (Mars & Venus); and humility is exactly what we're supposed to be learning.I'm very interested if you care to expand on this. Your eloquent words get close to the heart of the matter in a way I've seldomed experienced before. It so often seems that the conflict between our desires and our responsibilities is irreconcilable.

Jessica Murray
Jessica Murray

Rumple,If I were the marrying type I'd probably have more opinions on this, but I've never cottoned to the institution (per my "Santa Pluto" blog). And though, as you say, women seduce, too, strict comparisons are problematic in a society where everything from politics to economics are skewed to male power. I personally follow the same rule you do, but I think everyone has to figure out their own moral code and its attendant karma. And I don't think we can say infidelity is blase for anyone -- at the very least, not to the one who's been cuckolded.Thanks for writing in.Jessica

Rumplestiltskin
Rumplestiltskin

I'm all for compassion and this article is brilliant... but I have a question. Why is it that the man always gets all the attention for this? Why don't women refuse to sleep with married men or vice versa? Most men can be seduced and it seems there are plenty of women who don't care to honor the marriage commitment of another man or respect the married man's wife enough to stay away. To me, a married person is off limits sexually... and that is my responsibility regardless of whether or not they are willing to break their own commitment. Or should we just think of infidelity as something blase and not that important?

m.p.k
m.p.k

I'm speechless at the moment... this entry is awesome and right on!

Jessica Murray
Jessica Murray

Frederick, Amen. In terms of sexual sophistication, America must come across to the rest of the world as a sniggering schoolboy. Moreover, the GOP politicians who freak out like this all seem to subscribe to religions that keep them in arrested development spiritually. Yet another part of the problem is the ludicrously low standards to which the public holds the media, which pounces on each of these "scandals" to hold in thrall the lowest common denominator of popular interest. Thank you for your comment.Jessica

Frederick
Frederick

JessicaI'd the same astro consideration of the Mark Sanford 'scandal.' I like the way you've presented it -- humanely and with the astrological lens supporting a compassionate understanding. Why can't Americans become more Euro-minded in their attitudes towards their 'leaders' and the various affairs of the heart (or genitals) that those men and women become enmeshed in. I'm interested in their efforts on my behalf as a citizen, not what they do in their private time. Yes, I know the hypocrisy angle, and the GOP has a horrid track record; but regardless, folks need to grow up. Get real. And then get on with their own lives.Wonderful post. Thank you.