The Peace within the Flood

Why did the Goddess invent grief? What is its purpose?

Most of us think about this powerful energy, if at all, only in terms of the specific things that trigger it for us. And how to avoid them. But the skies this month are asking us to consider grief in a different way.

The swan song of the Neptune-Chiron conjunction (see November’s Skywatch) is conditioning the 3574501568_a820eddedf_mpsychic environment right now. It is giving us a chance to consider grief without fear, dismissal or judgment. We are being invited to open up to a universal human emotion that most of us feel ambivalent about, at best; ashamed of, at worst. Most of us are afraid of grief; and that fear turns it unhealthy.

But true grief is not unhealthy. Sweet, aching, spontaneous grief is a cleansing force like no other. Like ocean tides that clear the beach and pull everything back to the sea (Neptune), grief washes away our emotional detritus and connects us back to Source. Chiron’s role here is to teach us that when grief is allowed to keep moving, it heals.

This is an unusual transit and it poses an unusual challenge. It is daring us to drop our attitudes about emotional pain and simply feel it. By acknowledging sadness, and observing it from a distance, we allow it to work its magic. This is a tricky exercise: there’s a fine line between respecting a feeling and indulging in it. We must let grief open our hearts, but steer clear of becoming mired in it (which creates depression: grief with no life in it). The key is understanding grief as a trans-personal energy, bigger than our egoic selves. When we realize this, we can strike the right balance, and earn Neptune and Chiron’s reward: an enriched empathy.

Intellectual intelligence won’t help us here. This transit is about our emotional intelligence. When we are identified with this part of ourselves, we may see grief very differently from how we were raised to see it. We may start to question the way we were taught to hold back our tears. We may start to see as very strange that people in the throes of sorrow are hushed and secreted away. We may start to see it as a statement of how emotionally unsophisticated we are, as a culture, that the grieving are relentlessly told to be happy, to smile; and that those who acknowledge grievous situations are accused of “being negative.”

It takes courage to admit that certain aspects of life on Earth are sad. It is honest to mourn the fact that the world isn’t more loving. It is indeed grievous that people are not kinder to one another. Why deny it? It is an unarguable shame that we humans do not live up to the potential that we know we could express. Why dismiss these recognitions of the truth? Recognizing them as true is a testament to our being aware; and awareness can never steer us wrong.

This transit is getting us ready, as all transits do, for what is to come. After their November rendezvous, Neptune and Chiron will ingress into Pisces, of which more anon. This month’s conjunction, which has been in the background for the past couple of years, announces the shift we are making, as a world, towards a deeper understanding of everything Pisces means.

Those readers with emphasized Neptune or Chiron in their charts, or with Pisces dominant, will be used to this phenomenon already. But all of us are picking up on energies from everything around us, like an insect with wiggling antennae, actively taking everything in.

Our psychological filters are weak right now. The sense of separateness that keeps us from identifying with the rest of humanity and its sufferings is not as robust as usual. We may feel chaos flooding in, inducing a fear of psychic drowning. Just reading the headlines may feel overwhelming. Such feelings are utterly justifiable, and not inappropriate. But the fact that feeling inundated is forgivable doesn’t mean that it’s inevitable.

The teaching here is to venture beyond the normal reaction. To trust what is moving through us, to know it is taking us somewhere, and to find the peace within the flood. When we reach that state, we realize that grief and joy are flip sides of the same coin.

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Naga
Naga

Thank you for discussing grief; without embracing Pluto's influence when I experienced significant losses recently, I truly believe insanity would have ensued. There have been people who have gone "insane with grief:, and it is a real biochemical reaction. Astrology and numerology comforted me at the most critical times, and helped me truly accept the fact that this was something already planned before our incarnation this time.

Peg Davis
Peg Davis

Hello Jessica, mirror of my mother. Do you remember that you are both Sag moon and may 3 taurians? Well, I lost Norma to lung cancer last July. Her mother had turned 100 in May as well and the tradgedy was that they could not be together for that auspicious birthday. Gran passed 37 days after Norma It was an incredibly sad grinding year of continuous worry and grief. Pluto ground back and forth across my conjoinedsun-moon in Cap/12th house. This story shall be worthy of recording once some of the cosmic dust from this underbelly of the glacier is left behind. As one of Jessica's former students, she and Alan Oken and Dane Rudhyar and Demetra George can help people speak a true esperanto-Astrology!

Bridget
Bridget

Yes, thank you Jessica for giving us so much to think about. I have moon in Pisces, Leo sun, Gemini ascendant and am also in my 60's. So far, I feel a little bit like I did in the 60's - an adolescence of sorts. At Thanksgiving, I danced around a huge fire on the beach with friends in WA State and woke up the next morning to snow on the ground. What?! It doesn't snow at the ocean - but it did. We lost all power, heat, and water so we got to experience some primal fears that also helped us to appreciate all that we take for granted. It inspired several of us to help others who live with such conditions every day. Giving back is what it's all about for many of us who have so much. Thank you for your healing words and reminders of just what's important.

Kay
Kay

Jessica, thank you on and on and on. I've been blessed through your offerings since Maya's Daykeeper Journal was being printed and mailed. Such profound insights well up from a goddess who 'allows' as a discipline. Been to some of these places myself. Grief is a welcome cave for a butterfly-in-the-making, dissolving non-essential weights to allow soaring heights. My Scorpio stellium living in my third house and Libra Neptune thank you for saying what I know viscerally. Namaste.

john
john

Yes Lew, you are heard and understood. Just turned 60 a few days ago. The wisdom I recieve from my elders is overlooked by most, but there is no tragedy in it. There is no distresss in the tower and spirit is something that no one destroys. The dance goes on and the game is real, yet so is the freedom of truth's enlightenment. Joi 'de Vrie.

Tricia
Tricia

Lew, the sincerity of your response touched my heart. Thank you for expressing your process and hope to connect in our human dance of transformation. As Jamie Sams says, 'we are all dancing the dream into being'.

Lew
Lew

With Chiron opposing Mercury/South Node, Sun in Pisces, Saturn in Gemini squaring my Pisces Sun, Neptune opposing Venus in Aries - well, so much action in my chart one would think I've had a few past lives. There is not a day that goes by without fear, grief and sorrow - of varying degrees. At the age of 67, I can write with great sincerity the result is a huge abundance of empathy and a daily renewed love of Nature. I still have a tongue willing to "fight" for truth. It grieves me greatly to almost never be respected for the knowledge I've gleaned throughout the years - yet, I'm mellowing with age about that, too. I see so many people fighting the precious folks who bring us truth - that pains me greatly. We are all in this dance together. Some of us now waltz with grace, some still dislike dancing. Still, we all remain in the dance. Goddess Bless us, Everyone.

Rebecca
Rebecca

My interpretation of what you wrote is the trans-personal energy is of the psyche/soul that knows we are all connected, including through feeling. Then grief is like tuning in to a wave washing over us all like moisture in the air circulating the globe creating empathy for the human condition as well as joy and awe of the mystery of life itself. PS To me the fear of death is really a fear that this is all there is and when death comes, that's it. Finee. This makes life even more fragile and precious.

Bridget
Bridget

The many layers & levels of grief always teach us something. With the deaths this year of 2 significant family members only a few weeks apart, I found myself feeling tremendous loss. Resentment tried to work its way into my mind & emotions. To banish this negativity, I acknowledged my own mortality and am in the process of learning to embrace the inevitable. What is it about our fears of death?

john
john

I'm a scorpio, with both moon and North node in Pisces. I don't know whether I know too much about grief or not enough. It can overwhelm like a tsunami or it can be seemingly manageable depending on amount and source (cause). When real, it simply won't be denied. If denieable, then it isn't terribly real. As usual, our Jessica's words resonate in harmonious truth.

Elizabeth
Elizabeth

perfection...Nunti-Sunya...From my heart to yours...

Tricia
Tricia

For me, the Goddess invented grief to open my human heart and my mystical Heart. Ah, to FEEL the daily passages of life keeps me present, in the moment. I am learning to dance the dance with the Archetypes of Life-Death-Rebirth. I trust the tears now. Is this an rebirth or a closure? I know that our human family is an interconnected Web AND that my path is Unique. This practice is helping me let go of the Grief that there seems to be so much unconsciousness. My mystical Heart whispers, "Feel the Joy in your life". That is something I can embrace. Grief seems to open my heart more. My emotional life reaches for the Happy Tears after the Sad tears.